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WORLD MENTAL HEALTH DAY – IS YOUR JOB KILLING YOU? – my inputs in Ahmedabad Mirror

World Mental Health Day
Oct 10 2017 : Mirror (Ahmedabad)
Professionals in the 20-30 age group and in their first or second jobs are the ones who struggle to deal with workplace stress and harbour suicidal thoughts, say suicide helpline and psychiatrists
Doctors have often warned of work-induced stress being a source of several ailments, but ambitious professionals often choose to ignore it. If you are among those who give low priority to work-life balance as you progress in your career, Mirror brings you some shocking statistics today on World Mental Health Day to keep you warned. About 13rd of those harbouring suicidal thoughts, around 18 per day, call up the State police’s suicide prevention helpline every day. Psychologists and psychiatrists also aver that they get up to 200 patients of job-related stress every month, mostly in the age group of 20-30, the early phase of their careers. Constant pressure to perform well and lack of job security are primary reasons for mental and physical health issues among these young professionals, say doctors.55 calls a day

Of the roughly1,650 calls a month -55 calls a day -the Jeevan Astha helpline receives from across the State, around 550 are from young professionals who feel too much pressure at work and harbour suicidal thoughts, said officials at the helpline.

A senior counsellor with the helpline, said, “The 15-30 age group is the most susceptible to suicidal thoughts and the one that reaches out for help.The three main reasons that lead to suicidal thoughts among them are problems in professional life, relationship problems and addiction.“

PI Pravin Valera of Gandhinagar Police, liaison officer for the helpline, said, “Young professionals and entrepreneurs are susceptible to suicidal thoughts.Recently, we got a call from a young man who was ready to jump into the river. He called the helpline and told the counsellor that his start-up had failed.He was in debt and was contemplating suicide. It took 6-7 counselling sessions to bring him back from the edge.“

Jeevan Astha is the suicide helpline managed by Vandrevala Foundation which works with the Gujarat Police’s Suraksha Setu programme to help people with problems they cannot deal with and dissuade them from committing suicides.

Confirming this trend, Dr Prakash Mehta, head of the psychiatry department at Ahmedabad Civil Hospital in Asarwa, said that almost one-third of patients coming for treatment in the age group of 25-35 years suffered from work related stress.

Dr Mehta said, “We get around 200 patients a month who come to get treated for job-related stress. These account for one-third of all patients who visit the department. This kind of stress is mostly prevalent among men.“

Even physical health affected

Speaking on the reasons for this stress, Dr Mehta expounded, “Constant pressure to perform well and lack of job security are primary reasons for mental and health issues among young professionals.“

The HOD warns that it is not only mental health, but also physical health that is affected by workplace stress. Dr Mehta said, “Blood pressure, diabetes and obesity among the young is constantly rising due to workplace stress.“

Dr Hansal Bhachech, a consultant psychiatrist, said that 30 per cent of the patients who visit him have stress due to work related issues.

Dr Bhachech said, “Around 30 per cent of my patients in the age group of 25-35 suffer from work-related stress. A further 30 per cent of the patients have problems which are accentuated by job stress. Patients with depression and anxiety suffer even more as work stress inundates them.“

Speaking on the progression of work stress on young professionals, Dr Bachech said the age group of 25-30 years suffers from teething problems at new work places and find it hard to adjust in a fast-paced environment different to that which they have had up until that point. The age group of 30-35 years suffers from performance-related stress and handling of juniors and teammates at work.

Problems and solutions

Human Resources Professional Haresh Chaturvedi spoke to Mirror about the most common problems and solutions related to stress experienced by employees.

Chaturvedi said, “Work-life balance is a must. Employees should work and enjoy it too. Employee engagement and counselling are also important. Stress is caused when the employee does not enjoy what heshe is doing.“

He added,“ In such cases the HR must counsel these employees and transfer them to departments where they start liking their work. We have to make employees mentally strong to negotiate stress. Days are not far when companies will require psychologists if counselling and proper mentoring is not carried out periodically.“


Posted by on October 10, 2017 in Interviews


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My inputs in Times of India – Young netizens kill sleep time for `appy’ hours

Mar 19 2017 : The Times of India (Ahmedabad)
Young netizens kill sleep time for `appy’ hours
Soumitra Das
Sleep delayed isn’t sleep denied, but it isn’t a healthy habit either. And a 2016 study conducted by the Service for Healthy Use of Technology (SHUT) clinic at the National Institute of Mental Health and Neuroscience (NIMHANS), Bengaluru, whose results were published earlier this year, has come up with findings that one might lose sleep over. The study says that apps like Whatsapp and Facebook on our mobiles are delaying people’s sleep by about 100 minutes daily , which wasn’t the case till recently. We asked some celebs and experts about their browsing habits on mobile, and found out that it’s a reality that can no longer be ignored.CASES ARE ON THE RISE

The scenario has changed drastically in a matter of just about five years. As Hansal Bhachech, a consulting psychiatrist, tells us, “The number of cases where youngsters below 30 come and complain about their sleep patterns has gone up significantly . Our first question to them is about their usage of mobile internet the previous night, which is the root cause of the problem. Till five years ago, only people above 50 came and complained about insomnia. While things like exam stress can cause temporary insomnia in youngsters, their browsing habits during late hours is turning this into a long-lasting problem. While the duration of sleep may remain the same, the irregular sleeping pattern can lead to issues like hypertension and obesity too.“

So how does one cope with this addiction?
Says Bhachech, “We first explain the cause of the problem and then, suggest ways to deal with it. For instance, not replying to comments on social media after 10 pm is a good habit to inculcate. Also, alternatives like reading really help.“


For those whose schedules are hectic, resisting the urge to be online all the time is a tough one. As actress Samvedna Suwalka puts it, “You don’t even realize when browsing through social networking sites almost becomes an addiction. Staring at the screen keeps you awake at night and falling asleep becomes difficult. It had become a habit for me as well but then, I decided to discipline myself. While I used to sleep with the phone next to me earlier, now I try not to use my phone before going to bed. I keep it away from the bed and also try to read something meaningful before going to sleep, instead of staring at the mobile screen.“ Actor Vikee Shah seconds her, “At times, we have night shifts while shooting and you want to share something interesting on the social media to keep people posted. In our generation, nobody goes to sleep by 10 pm and late evening is a good time to catch up with friends online.However, it is important to strike a balance. Being a fitness conscious guy , I go to sleep by about 11.30 pm and sleep for at least eight hours. I don’t use my phone once I hit the bed.“


For celebs, discipline is crucial and they make sure that the addiction of being online doesn’t get to them. Table tennis champ Harmeet Desai tells us, “Sportspersons have a fixed schedule to follow and I don’t get too much time to browse through social media. It’s only during the weekend that I am a bit lenient with these self-imposed restrictions and since I have early morning practice sessions, I can’t afford to check my smartphones late in the night. I go to sleep by 10.30 pm.“

Probably, a digital detox after dinner won’t be such a bad idea. Remember what life away from the smartphone did to a wonder girl named P V Sindhu?

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Posted by on March 19, 2017 in Interviews


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Tree Idiot camapign – talk with Rj Dhvanit

‪#‎TreeIdiot‬ campaign by ‪#‎RadioMirchi‬ and‪#‎AhmedabadMunicipalCorporation‬

#‎RjDhvanit‬ ‪#‎DrHansalBhachech‬
I’m sharing this ‪#‎talk‬ with two messages
1. Plant more trees and look after them
2. Sit under tree and try to connect, you will find yourself in ‪#‎Meditation‬



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Posted by on July 26, 2016 in Audio-Video Posts


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Poem on Guru Purnima

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Posted by on July 19, 2016 in My Poems


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My inputs in today’s TOI on Suicide Notes…


Last words talk of pain, fear and disappointment….

Suicide Notes Reaching DFS Rise Four-Fold In 5 Years

On December 29 last year, Ravi Shah, a 29-year old youth from Maninagar, ended life by jumping into the Sabarmati River. From his wallet, police found a four-page note in which Shah had narrated his months-long ordeal in the hands of Karman, Mahesh and Jayram Rabari.The trio had lent him money , continued to inflate the interest and also forced him to do petty jobs for them. Maninagar police arrested the trio last month on the basis of the suicide note.

Regrettably , over the past five years, the trend of leaving behind suicide notes has gone up by 400%, making experts concerned.

Experts say that analysis of the notes provides a peek into the minds of the suicide victims and a possible key for preventing such incidents.

“Five years ago, we used to get around 15 notes each month for handwriting analysis to provide opinion on whether it matches the victim’s natural writing sample. The report establishes that there was no foul play involved. Today , the average is of around 60 notes per month. In January , we received 62 notes, out of which 45 were of high priority for ongoing court proceedings,“ said an official with state Directorate of Forensic Sciences (DFS) in Gandhinagar.

Officials added that they have found all kinds of notes ranging from written on newspaper margins to back of used postal covers. In some of the cases, the officials have got multiple notes written over a period of time, or even addressed to various persons including chief minister of Gujarat and prime minister of India.

What do the victims write in their notes? City police officials said that more often than not, the notes are written only the suicide victim wants to implicate somebody of abetment. “Suicide notes primarily mention moneylenders, defaulting debtors or monetary crisis. The next most common category is of relationship issues in both married and unmarried couples. The third category is about failure in fulfilling expectations be it academic or professional,“ said a police official. Officials said that while almost all age groups write suicide notes, the most common group is from18 to 45 years.

`Communication key to suicide prevention’

Dr Hansal Bhachech, city-based psychiatrist, said that a suicide is always aggression turned inward.“The notes reflect the aspect as it points towards a person.Many a times, the person takes the extreme step to make the others `realize’ something or prove their point. The same is true for motivation of punishing the persons responsible. We can find notes such as `take care of my mother’ or `do well in studies son’ in a few notes, showing the side of a person trying to justify the act, indicating that he or she did not have any other option left,“ he said. Professor Kamayani Mathur, city-based clinical psychologist, said that a lot goes on inside a person when he or she writes a suicide note as his or her final statement. “Family and educational institutes play a key role in shaping a person.We sometimes lose touch with the reality, and feel dejection. Timely communication between the suffering person and those in his surroundings is the key to preventing suicides,“ she said. She also mentioned the free helplines available for those feeling suicidal, and a recent initiative by state psychologists to conduct seminars in schools and colleges for positive mental health.


Posted by on February 29, 2016 in Interviews


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Things your man wants you to know about sex

My inputs and QA in Wedding Vows Magazine…

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1. Why do you think men watch porn?

By nature men are ‘Peeping Toms’ or in scientific term, voyeuristic. This means men are more visually stimulated than women. Their body and mind respond more strongly to visual sexual stimuli. As a result they get more sexual stimulation and gratification by looking at sexual objects or acts, especially secretively. Apart from natural voyeuristic inclination, men watch porn to get stimulation, to get pleasure in isolation, to spice up their excitement, to satisfy their fantasies and to experience a novelty. In early years guys watch it out of curiosity and sometimes to learn about sex as well. 

2. When do men enjoy sex the most?

Men enjoys sex the most when woman takes active interests in the act, stimulates him during the act and makes him realise that how stimulating and satisfying he is in bed. Dirty talks, sexual grunts, drinking or smoking together, watching porn etc spice up many men’s enjoyment. Nothing can be more satisfying than woman’s active performance rather than assuming passive role during sexual act. 

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3.  Do guys think about a women’s physical appearance before having sex with them?

As I said before, men are more visually stimulated so naturally physical appearance has a special place in man’s arousal. They may not think about it consciously but it has its impact, it may be overall appearance or body parts like breasts, eyes, lips, hairs etc. Once they are aroused, everything else becomes secondary but sex and her active performance or response. 

4. How important is sex for a man?

Sex is like a breathing for a man. One cannot think of surviving without it. This does not mean he is always on and continuously engaged in to sexual acts but it does mean that his thinking is dominated by sex, may be in foreground or background, may not be all the time but many times!!

5. What man hates most about sex? 

Begging for a sex and uncooperative partner are two things man hates the most. He doesn’t like to persuade sexual activities, he wants natural response to his arousal. He hates women using sex as control mechanism and taunting him on his desires. 


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Posted by on January 11, 2016 in Interviews


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અપેક્ષાઓ જીવનની મઝા ગમે તે ઘડીએ બગાડી શકે છે. ખોટી વ્યક્તિઓ પાસે, ખોટા સમયે રાખેલી અને ખોટી બાબતોની અપેક્ષાઓ જીવનભર રિબાવે છે.

spread a thought Tari ane mari vaat

દિવાળીએ આપણે વાત કરી જીવન પ્રત્યેનો અભિગમ અને સમજ બદલવા આવનારા સમયના સંકલ્પો ઓછા અને વીતેલા સમયનું પાકું સરવૈયું વધુ કામ આવે છે. જીવન મનભરીને માણવા માટેની આ એક પાયાની સમજ છે પરંતુ આ બધી વાતો કરવી ખુબ સહેલી હોય છે, પણ એને સાચા અર્થમાં વ્યવહારમાં મુકવા માટે આયોજન કરવું પડે છે. કમનસીબે આપણી માનસિકતા ધીરે ધીરે આયોજન કરવાથી દુર થતી જાય છે. આજે મજા કરોને કાલ કોણે જોઈ છે?! મગજને બેફીકરાઈનો દારૂ પીવડાવવા પુરતી આ વાત મજાની છે પણ નશો ઉતરે ત્યારે વાસ્તવિકતા મોં ફાડીને ઉભી હોય છે. આ વાસ્તવિકતા મનને ઉચાટમાં લઇ આવે એટલે ફરી પાછો બેફીકરાઈનો નશો ચડાવ્યે જ છુટકો ! ચક્કર ચાલે છે અને ‘કંટાળો’ નીતરતો જાય છે. જે વાત, પરિસ્થિતિ, સ્થળ, ફિલ્મ, ગીત કે લોકો આનંદ આપતા હતાં તે હવે બોર કરે છે. મનને સતત નવી ઉત્તેજના જોઈએ છે. જ્યાં સુધી મન ઉત્તેજનાઓ શોધ્યા કરે ત્યાં સુધી આ ચક્કરમાંથી બહાર ના આવી શકાય. માત્ર એક સારું વેકેશન લેવાથી ઉન્માદ અને ઉત્તેજના જરૂર આવે પણ જીવનને ઉત્સવમાં ના ફેરવી શકાય. જીવનને માણવું એ રોજીંદો ખેલ છે. જિંદગીને મનભરીને માણવા તમારા રોજીંદા જીવનમાં, તમારા સ્વભાવમાં અમુક વાતો ઉતારવી પડે અને સતત તેના અમલ માટે જાગૃત રહેવું પડે છે.
જે વાત મન સમજી શકતું નથી તે વાત તે અનુભવી શકતું નથી અને જે વાત મન અનુભવી શકતું નથી તે વાત તે માણી શકતું નથી. જીવનને માણવા માટે આ મૂળભૂત સત્ય સમજી લેવું પડે. સૌ પ્રથમ આપણે જીવન પાસેથી શું જોઈએ છે તેની સ્પષ્ટતા કેળવવી પડે કારણ કે મોટાભાગની વ્યક્તિઓ આ બાબતમાં સ્પષ્ટ નથી હોતી. બીજી વ્યક્તિઓની સમજ અને વિચારોમાં ઢસડાતી રહેતી હોય છે. તમારી જરૂરીયાત સાવ અલગ હોઈ શકે છે. એકવાર તમે આ બાબતમાં સ્પષ્ટ થઇ જાવ પછી તે દિશામાં મન, હૃદય અને આત્મા લગાવીને પ્રવૃત રહેવું પડે. તમારી સ્પષ્ટતા કે જરૂરીયાત મુજબની તક તમને જીવન આપે જ તે જરૂરી નથી માટે તમારે એ તક ઉભી કરવા પણ સતત પ્રયત્નશીલ રહેવું પડે. જે વસ્તુ બદલવી અશક્ય છે તેની ફરિયાદ કરવાનું છોડી અને તેના વિકલ્પો અપનાવી તમારી તક સાધતા રહેવું જરૂરી છે.
‘સબસે બડા રોગ, ક્યાં કહેંગે લોગ’ આ વાત તમને જીવન માણતા અટકાવી શકે છે. જો તમે સતત અન્ય વ્યક્તિઓની ઇચ્છાઓ કે અભિપ્રાયો ઉપર નિર્ભર રહેતા હોવ તો ક્યારે’ય હળવાશ કે માનસિક શાંતિ ના અનુભવી શકો. કોઈની ઝેરોક્ષ બનવા કરતાં પોતાની અસલ કોપી રહેવું વધુ અગત્યનું છે. તમારા સપનાને અનુસરવા તમારે આ વૃત્તિ કેળવવી પડે. તમારી જાત અને જરૂરીયાત સાથે પ્રમાણિક બનવાથી આ વાત તમે કેળવી શકો છો.
‘જિંદગી ના મિલેગી દોબારા’ નો મને સૌથી વધુ ગમેલો ડાયલોગ “મુઝે અફસોસ કરના નહીં આતા”! માત્ર પાંચ શબ્દોમાં જીવનનું મહાન સત્ય !! મોટાભાગની વ્યક્તિઓનું જીવન તેમણે કરેલી ભૂલો, ચૂકેલી તકો કે વિતાવેલી દુખદ ક્ષણોને વાગોળી અને તે અંગે અફસોસ કરવામાં જાય છે. જીવનને માણવા અફ્સોસોને ભૂલી આગળ વધવાની ક્ષમતા કોઈપણ સંજોગોમાં કેળવવી પડે, નહીંતર વીતી ગયેલી ક્ષણોના ચીંથરા ભેગા કરવામાં જીવન હાથમાંથી સરી જાય અને પછી જીવન હાથમાંથી સરી ગયાનો અફસોસ !
જીવનના કોઈપણ તબક્કે આપણે એ ના ભૂલવું જોઈએ કે મનુષ્ય સામાજિક પ્રાણી છે. સંબંધો આપણી મજબુરી નહી જરૂરીયાત છે. જીવનને માણવા માટે સ્વસ્થ સંબંધો મૂળભૂત જરૂરીયાત છે. કમનસીબે આપણા સંબંધો રીઅલ ઓછા અને વર્ચ્યુઅલ વધારે થઇ રહ્યા છે. જીવંત વ્યક્તિ સાથેની રૂબરૂ મુલાકાત દરમ્યાન ગાળેલી થોડીક ક્ષણો ચેટિંગ કે ટેકસ્ટીંગમાં ગાળેલા દિવસો કરતાં પણ કંઇક ગણી રોમાંચક હોય છે તે ઊંઘમાં પણ ભૂલવું ના જોઈએ. તમને ગમતા, પ્રેરણા આપતા અને પ્રોત્સાહિત કરતાં રહેતા પોઝીટીવ વ્યક્તિઓને બે હાથે પકડી રાખો. તેમના જીવંત સંપર્કમાં રહો અને એ ના શક્ય બને તો વર્ચ્યુઅલ સંપર્કમાં કારણ કે ‘ના મામા કરતાં કહાણો મામો સારો’ !
અપેક્ષાઓ જીવનની મઝા ગમે તે ઘડીએ બગાડી શકે છે. ખોટી વ્યક્તિઓ પાસે, ખોટા સમયે રાખેલી અને ખોટી બાબતોની અપેક્ષાઓ જીવનભર રિબાવે છે. માટે તમારી અપેક્ષાઓ પ્રત્યે સતત જાગૃત રહો અને જરૂર પડ્યે ત્યાં યોગ્ય કાબુ ધરાવો. નાની નાની બાબતો પર મન માર્યા અને જીવ બાળ્યા કરતાં પોતાની જાતને અને સાથે સાથે અન્યને પણ માફ કરતાં શીખો. આવી બાબતોને વળગીને રહેવા કરતાં તેમાંથી પાઠ શીખી આગળ વધો. તમારી નકારાત્મક લાગણીઓ જેવી કે ગુસ્સો, ઈર્ષ્યા, પસ્તાવો વગેરે પર નજર રાખો અને તે અંગેની બાબતો પર સ્પષ્ટતા કેળવી તેનો નિકાલ કરતાં રહો.
જીવનને સાચા અર્થમાં માણવા તંદુરસ્ત રહેવું જરૂરી છે. કોઈપણ ભોગે તમારી તંદુરસ્ત સાથે ખીલવાડ ના કરો. તમે શું ખાવ છો તેના પ્રત્યે સતત જાગૃત રહો અને નિયમિત કસરત કરો. શરીર મફતમાં મળ્યું છે એટલે એના પ્રત્યે ‘દે ઠોકમ ઠોક’ નો ભાવ ના રખાય ! જીવન પ્રત્યે આશાવાદી બનો અને જાત પરત્વે વિશ્વાસ રાખો તો અને તો જ જીવન મઝાનું બની રહે છે નહીંતર જીવન નિરાશા અને સંદેહથી ભરેલું જ રહેશે તે નક્કી.
આમ તો આ દરેક મુદ્દા પર એક પુસ્તક લખી શકાય તેમ છે પણ અહીં તેનો અવકાશ નથી. લાંબુ જીવવું ઈશ્વરને આધીન છે પણ સારું જીવવું આપણા હાથમાં છે. શરત માત્ર એટલી કે એ દિશામાં હંમેશા પ્રયત્નશીલ રહેવું.

સારું જીવવા શું કરવું જોઈએ તેની બધાને ખબર હોય છે પરંતુ તે બાબતો પ્રત્યે ગંભીર બનવા કરતાં ચમત્કારિક રીતે જીવન બદલાઈ જશે તેવી ભ્રમણામાં જીવન હાથમાંથી સરી પડે છે.

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