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Inputs in Times of India – My kid is a midnight sneaky snacker – Late-Night Eating Causes Multiple Disorders

My kid is a midnight sneaky snacker

Late-Night Eating Causes Multiple Disorders

Parth Shashtri

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Parents of 16-year old Amit Chavda (name changed) were worried by his sudden weight gain and complete reversal of sleeping habits. Amit used to keep awake at night – often bingewatching films or shows on his tablet to ‘exhaust the data pack for the day’ – and sleep during the daytime. When they consulted a psychiatrist after a recommendation, it was also revealed that the web series spree was often accompanied by equal helping of food.

As nocturnal activities of the teens and youths have increased exponentially thanks to digital devices, a number of city-based experts are flooded with queries to ‘cure’ the lifestyle and eating disorders. Experts said the trend is worrisome as it not only affects a person’s body clock severely, but also causes irreversible damage to the latter’s health in the long run.

Dr Hansal Bhachech, a city-based psychiatrist, said today’s young generation leads a stressful life and it gets reflected in their routine. “In one of my recent cases, a 24-year-old youth was referred to me. The youth had type II diabetes with abnormal blood sugar profile. While taking the history of the case, I got to know that his routine lacked any kind of exercise and he went to sleep very late. After counselling, we suggested him a corrective course to maintain his health,” he said.

He added that a number of factors – ranging from latenight football matches to tendency to work at night – are responsible for the change. “It has been observed that the food they eat when they get hungry post midnight is often unhealthy and the eating is unconscious. We advice such patients to ensure fixed timings for sleeping, keeping away from digital devices and maintain a routine, including exercise,” said Dr Bhachech, adding that most of the cases he has observed are in age group of 15 to 25 years.

Dr Rucha Mehta, a citybased endocrinologist, said in one of her recent cases, a teen had diabetes over 200 after which the parents sought counselling. “Childhood obesity is a phenomenon now and it can take epidemic proportions if right steps are not taken in time,” she said.

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Posted by on July 8, 2018 in Interviews

 

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Input in Times Of India – Viral rumours spur lynching sickness

TOI 2:7:2018

A woman was lynched in Vadaj on June 27 after a mob labelled her a ‘child-lifter’ and overturned the auto she and two other women were travelling in. It was neither the first nor the last gruesome assault of this nature in Gujarat. While a man with mental problems was beaten up near Waghodia in Vadodara district on Saturday, 14 cases had been recorded earlier in the vicinity of Surat, Rajkot, and Vadodara.

This spate of violence does not represent the first instance of mass hysteria in Gujarat in the recent past. The state has buzzed with rumours of thieves with supernatural powers and braid or hair chopping in 2015 and 2017 respectively.

Why do rumours haunt society periodically and take lives? According to experts, the key lies in the concoction of public perception and fear psychosis. The cases in the recent past have had the pan-India reach and impact. Indeed, ‘child-lifting’ rumours have claimed lives from Assam to Tamil Nadu, thanks to social media platforms such as WhatsApp.

Mahesh Tripathi, assistant professor of psychology with Raksha Shakti University (RSU), said that stopping the deadly spread of rumours requires dispelling myths and determining the roots of rumours. Tripathi was part of a team formed by the state police’s CID (crime) to probe the braid-chopping claims and had documented all the seven incidents that were reported to police.

“Visuals stay with us longer than the written word and videos circulated on different platforms are seen by thousands without fully understanding their implications,” he said. “When something matching the description happens in the viewer’s vicinity, the fear psychosis is projected onto strangers. In such a scenario, it is important to probe the very first incident thoroughly and dispel the myth. It can weaken similar claims.”

Social media plays a major role in controlling an individual’s emotions, said Dr Hansal Bhachech, an Ahmedabad psychiatrist. “A person is under a lot of duress these days. When a person is insecure, the suggestability is amplified and the usual independent thinking is clouded,” he said. “The repressed aggression gets manifested in mob action.”

Ashutosh Parmar, ACP, B Division, said that it is still being probed whether the main attackers in the Vadaj incident were motivated by any video or local rumours. “We are creating awareness about false claims to prevent any untoward incident,” he said. “When the rumours were at their peak in Gandhinagar district in 2015, we kept vigil alongside villagers and assured them of their safety.”

 

 
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Posted by on July 2, 2018 in Interviews

 

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દરેક વ્યક્તિ આપણે ઈચ્છીએ ત્યારે પોતાના બધા જ કામ મુકીને કનેક્ટ થવા બંધાયેલી નથી, ફરજીયાત કનેક્ટ થવાનું કે કનેક્ટેડ રહેવાનું એક જબરદસ્ત દબાણ હોય છે!

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‘સર, વાત કરી લો’ કન્સલ્ટેશન દરમ્યાન વાગતા મોબાઈલને હું સાયલન્ટ કરતો હતો ત્યાં મારા ક્લાયન્ટે મને કહ્યું. મેં મોબાઈલની રીંગને અવગણીને વાત ચાલુ રાખવાનો પ્રયત્ન કર્યો. પરંતુ, હંમેશા બનતું હોય છે એમ ઉપરાઉપરી એકીશ્વાશે સામેથી રીંગ ઉપર રીંગ ઠોકવાની ચાલુ જ રહી. આપણે ત્યાં એક મોટો વર્ગ એવો છે કે જેને આવા સમયે સંભળાતો રેકોર્ડેડ અવાજ, જે તમને થોડા સમય બાદ ફોન કરવાનું કહે છે તે, સમજાતો નથી અને એ ઉપરાઉપરી રીંગ માર્યે જાય છે. કદાચ આવી વ્યક્તિઓને ડોક્ટર અને ટેલીફોન ઓપરેટર વચ્ચે ભેદ હોય તેવી સામાન્ય સમજ નહીં હોય એટલે તરત જ ફોન ઉપડે તેવી અપેક્ષાઓ રાખતા હશે ! એમની ઉપરાઉપરી રીંગથી કંટાળીને તમે તમારું કામ પડતું મુકીને મોબાઈલ ઉપાડો તો ‘ક્યારનો ફોન કરું છું’ એમ કહીને કેટલાક તો પોતાની પાસે આવી સામાન્ય અક્કલ નથી એનો પરિચય પણ આપે. એનાથી પણ વધુ મૂર્ખાઈભરી હરકત તો એ હોય છે કે ડોક્ટર સાવ નવરા, એના જ મોબાઈલની રાહ જોઇને જ બેઠા હોય એમ, તેમની અનુકુળતા જાણ્યા-પૂછ્યા વગર પોતાની કથા ચાલુ કરી દેવાની. હમણાં જ એક લગ્ન સમારંભમાં હાથમાં જમવાની ડીશ અને મોબાઈલ ઉપર સાહેબ કો’કના ઝાડા મટાડી રહ્યા’તા! આ તો ગઈકાલે જ બનેલી ઘટના હતી એટલે ખાલી ઉદાહરણ તરીકે આપી, બાકી આવી તો અનેક ચિત્ર-વિચિત્ર પરિસ્થિતિઓમાં મોબાઈલ અટેન્ડ કરતા ડોકટરોને જોયા છે. જેમાં, ખભા અને કાન વચ્ચે મોબાઈલ દબાવીને પેશાબ કરતા કરતા ટેલીફોનીક કન્સલ્ટેશન કરતા ડોકટરો પણ આવી ગયા!! અને મહત્વની વાત એ છે કે આમાંથી માંડ બે ટકા ફોન પણ મેડીકલ ઈમરજન્સીના નથી હોતા, દાનત માત્ર સમય-પૈસા બચાવવાની કે ફુરસદની હોય છે, પૂછી જોજો કોઈપણ ડોક્ટરને! ઘણા ડોકટરો આ કારણોસર પોતાના મોબાઈલ નંબર આપતા અચકાતા હોય છે અથવા ચાલુ કન્સલ્ટેશન દરમ્યાન મોબાઈલ બહાર અટેન્ડન્ટ કે આસીસ્ટન્ટને આપી રાખતા હોય છે.

આમ તો આ વર્ષોથી ચાલી આવતી સમસ્યા છે પરંતુ આજે પેન ઉપર આવવા પાછળ એક કારણ છે. પહેલી જાન્યુઆરીથી ફ્રાન્સમાં એક રોજગાર કાયદો અસ્તિત્વમાં આવ્યો છે – ‘રાઈટ ટુ ડિસ્કનેક્ટ’! ફ્રેંચ વર્કર્સ કોર્ટમાં પોતાની તરફેણમાં આ અંગેનો કેસ જીતી ગયા છે. આ કાયદા અંતર્ગત તેમને કામના કલાકો સિવાય પોતાના મોબાઈલ ફોન બંધ કરવાની કે સંપર્કમાં ના રહેવાની છુટ્ટી મળશે. તેમની અપીલ હતી કે કામના કલાકો પછી પણ તેમના મોબાઈલ ચાલુ રહેવાને કારણે તે સતત તણાવમાં રહેતા હતા, અનિદ્રાથી પીડાતા હતા અને તેમના સંબંધોમાં વણજોઈતી સમસ્યાઓ ઉભી થતી હતી. કોર્ટે આ બધીજ વાત માન્ય રાખી અને તેમને નોકરીના સમય સિવાય સંપર્કમાં ના રહેવાની છૂટ આપી. જે લોકો ખરેખર આ બાબતથી ત્રસ્ત હશે તે ખુશ થશે પરંતુ ‘ઓફીસીઅલ’ના બહાને આડે-અવળે લટકેલા રહેનારા નાખુશ થાય એ પણ શક્ય છે.

‘રાઈટ ટુ ડિસ્કનેક્ટ’ – વાત બહુ મહત્વની છે, માત્ર નોકરીઆત માટે નહીં બધા જ માટે! સતત કનેક્ટેડ રહેવાને કારણે અગાઉ ક્યારેય નહતા અથવા ભાગ્યે જ હતા એવા પ્રશ્નો રોજીંદા બની રહ્યા છે. મેં શરૂઆત તો ડોકટરોને લગતી સમસ્યાથી કરી પરંતુ આ સમસ્યા દરેકને નડે છે. મોબાઈલની રીંગ વાગે, મેસેજ આવે કે નોટીફીકેશન ટોન રણકે – મગજ બધુજ કામ મુકીને મોબાઈલમાં અટકી જાય. મોબાઈલ હાથમાં ઉઠાવો કે ના ઉઠાવો મગજનો એક ખૂણો એની સાથે જોડાઈ જાય અને સામેવાળો ઉપરાઉપરી રીંગ મારીને કે મેસેજ કરીને એ ખૂણો એક્ટીવ જ રાખે! ગમે તેવા સંજોગોમાં ફોન ઉપાડવાનું દબાણ અને ના ઉપાડો ત્યાં સુધી વારંવાર રીંગ દબાણ કરે (આવા સંજોગોમાં ત્રીસ-ચાલીસ મિસકોલ મારનારા વિરલાઓ છે!) અથવા તમારી ફુરસદે જવાબ આપો તો ફોન કેમ ના ઉપાડ્યોનું સામેવાળાને ગળે ઉતરે તેવો જવાબ આપવાનું દબાણ, ખાસ કરીને પ્રેમ-સંબંધોમાં! ચેટનો તરત જ જવાબ આપવાનો અને ના આપો તો ‘ક્વેશ્ચન માર્ક’ના ઢગલા આવે! એમાં’ય જો ઓનલાઈન હોવ તો ગમે તેવું અગત્યનું કામ મુકીને પણ સામેવાળાને એટેન્ડ કરી લેવા પડે નહીંતર… જેવો જેનો સામેવાળો કે સામેવાળી! ફરજીયાત કનેક્ટ થવાનું કે કનેક્ટેડ રહેવાનું એક જબરદસ્ત દબાણ હોય છે, અલબત્ત દેખીતું ના હોય તો પણ સુષુપ્ત રીતે તો ચોક્કસ હોય છે જ અને આ કારણે જ મોટાભાગની વ્યક્તિઓ તેમનો ફોન સ્વીચ-ઓફ કરતા ખચકાતી હોય છે. આ બધી વાતો તમે સ્વીકારો કે ના સ્વીકારો એ તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વ ઉપર આધારિત છે પરંતુ આજના સમયની આ વાસ્તવિકતા છે. માટે જ, ‘ફોમો’(ફીઅર ઓફ મિસિંગ આઉટ-દેશી ભાષામાં ‘રહી જઈશું’), ‘નોમો ફોબિયા’(મોબાઈલ નેટવર્ક ના હોવાનો કે મોબાઈલ વગરના થઇ જવાનો ડર) વગેરે માનસિક સમસ્યાઓ જન્મ લઇ ચુકી છે. અરે આ ગાંડપણ ત્યાં સુધી પહોંચ્યું છે કે ‘ડ્રોસ્માર્ટોફોબિયા’ એટલે ટોઇલેટના ટબમાં તમારો સ્માર્ટફોન પડી જવાનો ડર – જેવા ફોબિયા આ લીસ્ટમાં ઉમેરાઈ રહ્યા છે. મને તો પ્રશ્ન એ થાય છે કે મોબાઈલ લઈને ટોઇલેટમાં જવું જ શું કામ જોઈએ?! પણ, જનારો મોટો વર્ગ છે, કાળા-ધોળા બધા કામ માટે!

દુનિયાભરના મનોચિકિત્સકો એકમત છે કે મોબાઈલના કારણે થઇ રહેલી માનસિક સમસ્યાઓ, સંબંધોને લગતા પ્રશ્નો અને માનસિક તણાવ આવનારા વર્ષોમાં ભયંકર સ્વાસ્થ્ય-સંબંધી પ્રશ્નો ઉભા કરશે. સમજવાનું મોબાઇલે કે મોબાઈલ સેવા આપનારી કંપનીઓએ નથી, આપણે બધાએ છે! ‘રાઈટ ટુ ડિસ્કનેક્ટ’ – માત્ર એમ્પ્લોયરે આપવાની વાત નથી, આપણે બધાએ પોતાની જાતને અને અન્ય લોકોને આપવાની વાત છે. દરેક વ્યક્તિ આપણે ઈચ્છીએ ત્યારે પોતાના બધા જ કામ મુકીને કનેક્ટ થવા બંધાયેલી નથી. બસ, આટલી સ્વતંત્રતા સામેવાળી વ્યક્તિને આપી શકીએ તો પણ ઘણું બધું દબાણ સંબંધોમાં ઓછું કરી શકાય. તમને તમારા વ્યક્તિ અને સંબંધમાં એટલો વિશ્વાસ હોવો જોઈએ કે જેવું શક્ય બનશે એવું તરત એ તમારી સાથે કનેક્ટ થશે જ. હા, જ્યાં તમે તમારી જરૂરીયાત માટે કનેક્ટ થવા ઈચ્છતા હોવ ત્યાં એકવાર ફોન ના ઉપડ્યો કે મેસેજનો તરત જવાબ ના મળ્યો તો રઘવાયા થઇ જવાને બદલે થોડો સમય રાહ જોવાનું રાખો, તમારો અને સામેવાળાનો તણાવ ઓછો થશે, કોમ્યુનિકેશન વધારે અસરકારક બનશે.

પૂર્ણવિરામ: ઓનલાઈન વ્યક્તિ કેટલીવારમાં તમારી ચેટનો જવાબ આપે છે તેના ઉપર તમે તમારું મહત્વ મૂલવતા હોવ તો તમે સંબંધોમાં સ્વતંત્રતા આપવામાં કાચા પડવાના તે નક્કી !

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My inputs in Ahmedabad Mirror about 12th results…

Ahmedabad Mirror 2018-05-09

Overreaction to poor results can scar your child for life

Parents, exercise restraint! With class 12 (science) results to be announced on Thursday, psychiatrists and counselors advise parents to avoid negative outbursts if their children fail to get expected results as that could add to the stress that the students would be facing at that time and in turn have lasting consequences.

The reactions of parents of science stream students tend to be more intense, say experts, cautioning that they may need to be a little more understanding of their children’s mental state at the time of results.

Police inspector Pravin Valera, liaison officer for Jeevan Aastha Helpline from Gandhinagar police, says that more than 50 of the 100 calls per day are from students who fear poor result in exams.

“These kids are mostly worried about how their parents will react. It is neither their future, nor their career nor even education they are worried about, but the expectation of their parents,” he adds.

Mirror had on May 3 reported that while half the students calling the helpline spoke of fear of results, others sought career counselling. Asked about students’ biggest fear, a counsellor at the helpline says, “Mostly it is the fear of parents commenting that they have nothing to show after wasted money on expensive schools and tuitions. Poor results can be extremely stressful and we have to counsel them to relax and talk to their parents instead of taking any rash step.”

Another counsellor points out parents feel their job is restricted to just paying for the children’s education. “But that is not so. On the other hand, students have this overarching need to please their parents and are very apprehensive about not living up to the high expectations thrust upon them. We tell them that their job is to work hard during the year and give their exams. They should not worry about anything else. But parents need counselling too,” the counsellor adds.

Nikita Bhatt, whose son Hemil will get his results on May 10, says, “I don’t believe that results dictate my son’s future. Obviously, as a parent, my expectations are high because I want him to go to a good college but that doesn’t mean I thrash him because of a result I cannot change.”

Lasting impact

According to Dr Hansal Bhachech, a parents’ aggressive reaction to results can have long-term effect on children. “Recently a 68-year-old man had come to consult me because he was still getting nightmares of failing in examinations,” he says.

Talking about the attitude of parents, Dr Bhachech adds, “We in Gujarat associate education very closely to money and success since we are a business community. Parents see a direct relation between bad results and financial burden as they will have to send their children to private institutions and pay more fees or donations.”

He advises parents to put across their disappointment in a subtle way and not to overreact to an extent that may cause long-term damage to children’s psyche and their bond with their parents.

“A bad reaction to results has a direct relation to performance anxiety in people throughout their lives,” he says.

Dr Prakash Mehta, HOD of psychiatry at Sola Civil Hospital, says, “Parents have unrealistic expectations and then get disappointed with results. Mostly, this leads to drastic reactions that end in anxiety, depression and lower confidence levels in students. In extreme cases, when children do not have the capacity to handle the double stress of failure as well as disappointing their parents, it may lead to suicidal tendencies.”

Must-do for parents
􀁺 Have realistic expectations
􀁺 Be prepared for poor result
􀁺 Counsel yourself to remain calm
􀁺 Do not react harshly to poor result
􀁺 Express disappointment tactfully
􀁺 Support children in times of failure

Dr.Hansal 2018-05-09

Link to original article:

http://ahmedabadmirror.indiatimes.com/ahmedabad/education/overreaction-to-poor-results-can-scar-your-child-for-life/articleshow/64085626.cms

 
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70% of Amdavadis bribe their kids with chocos, gadget, toys – Inputs in DNA

Ahmedabad ranked lowest when it came to bribing their children with money
BRIBING, a new threat
  Tanushree Bhatia tanushree.bhatia@dnaindia.net – 02 Apr 2018
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In a survey conducted by Early Childhood Association across five cities in the country, it was found that nearly 70 % parents from Ahmedabad bribe their child. While chocolates and toys dominated the list of top tools used to bribe children, 31% of parents also bribed the kids with technology and gadget time. Interestingly, of all the cities that were surveyed, Ahmedabad ranked the lowest when it came to bribing with money.

The survey was conducted with 15000 parents from Mumbai, Bengaluru, Ahmedabad, Pune and Chennai between age ranges 3 to 12 years between January and March. The results are indeed worrisome and it is time to educate parents about these methods.

Interestingly, 64% parents also make their child feel guilty by saying they are working to pay for their fees and only 11% parents agreed that they never make their child feel guilty. The result for others cities is 73% for Pune, 63% for Bengaluru, 61% for Chennai and 60% for Mumbai.

Commenting on the study, Swati Popat Vats, President, ECA said, “Daisy Irani, veteran actor, had recently confessed that she was raped at the age of 6 and had kept it a secret and did not share it with her parents. We started the survey when a lot of parents approached us when their child would hide many things from them.

That is when we realized that the threatening and the secret game starts from home itself. In many instances, parents threaten their children by saying if they do not agree with them then they will be sent to a hostel. Similarly, predators are misusing this fact and threaten children by saying that their mother will die or remain unhappy if they disclose the secret.

Bribing, threatening and telling kids to keep a secret are all traditionally rooted parenting styles, each generation experienced them as it is easy. The survey brought to light that children are made to feel guilty that their parents have to work to get good things like toys and school fees, this can have a tremendous impact on the guilt burden of the child and then when a pedophile threatens them that if you do not keep it a secret, I will hurt your parents. Another worrisome trend highlighted in the survey was that parents are using physical punishment for disciplining, most of the times in the heat of the moment and then regretting it and feeling guilty an trying to say sorry to the child. This teaches kids that adults can use physical force with them as long as they say sorry or bribe them later, Vats said.

A child psychiatrist Param Shukla recommends ‘token economy’ method to be adopted by parents. He says, “Token economy involves the process in which to get something, one needs to earn it. So parents should not offer something which is outrageous or very expensive. It should be age appropriate always. For example, for younger children, a hug means a lot whereas, for little older children, stationery or a book to read could be a way to incentify the children as this does not put any negative impact.”

“Parents bribe as they want to substitute their time and in order to not spend time with their children, they try to reward the child. While rewards always work when it comes to discipline, I feel that reward should always be delayed. If the reward is immediate, it becomes a bribe. For example, we used to get the reward only if we score good marks but it would be announced 8-9 months prior to the exam. We’d wait which would motivate us. However, if the reward is immediate, children start putting conditions, says consulting psychiatrist Hansal Bhachech.

Dr.Hansal Bhachech added, “Also, a reward should never be given to hide a secret as it will make them bargain and blackmail in future. One of the biggest concern and bribe today is gadgets. When my patients discuss their issues with me, they often hand over their cell phone to their child so that he/she does not disturb them. And by the time the child reaches 7-8 years of age, they get addicted to phones. The solution to this is that parents need to first understand that they need to spend time with their child and not get rid of their child only then things will change.”

 
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Moms spank kids more than dads – Inputs in DNA

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Moms spank kids more than dads

A pan-India survey reveals that 21% parents in the city said it was a daily occurrence

Amdavadi mothers have admitted to spanking their kids at home more often as against the father. This has been revealed in a pan-India survey on ‘Spanking 2018’ further stating that 21% of those surveyed also admitted to this as a daily occurrence. Spanking, defined as hitting a child on the buttocks with an open hand is a common form of discipline still used at many places.

The survey conducted by First Moms Club along with Early Childhood Association (ECA) highlighted that 77.5% parents resort to hitting children across the country. Nearly 12000 parents across the country were interviewed as part of the survey.

67% of the 1,690 parents from Ahmedabad admitted to spanking their kids at home. More often than fathers, it was mothers who raised their hands whereas 72% of the time, their partners disapproved of this. This survey was conducted to help parents accept the fact that they do spank their kids and that they are not the only ones struggling with this.

Speaking about the reasons Swati Popat Vats, President, ECA said, “The main reason is that since fathers are not involved in parenting, the entire burden is on the mother and hence they take out their frustration on the child. Also, for working mothers, it is the guilt of not able to spend much time and if the child misbehaves in that short duration, they end up spanking whereas for stay-at-home mothers, they feel that they dedicate their entire life to kids but they yet do not not listen.”

Interestingly, while 80% of the parents never sought any intervention, 95% wanted to stop spanking.

 

“Spanking does not solve the problem, it only aggravates it. Children who are beaten learn that violence is a form of showing love and so will accept violence even as adults and will practice the same. Girls will accept violence from their husbands and boys will not hesitate in physically abusing their wives as they have learnt that the solution to all issues is violence and then a simple hug or sorry will make things right, added Vats.

Expertspeak:

Consulting psychiatrist Dr Hansal Bhachech opines that dealing with children in present times, who are argumentative, self-dominated and stubborn itself requires a lot of patience. Having said that, he further feels that it is mothers who end up spanking because a mother has to play multiple roles. “Tolerance of a woman is less as far as discipline is concerned and hence she loses her cool quickly. However, the amount of rage with which spanking is being done needs to be seen. If the mother is spanking light heartedness, then it is different but spanking with real hatred in the eyes in which a child feels insulted then it has ill-effects on children. On most occasions these days, mothers are frustrated in own life and displaces anger on the child. Also, children know whether spanking is out of real punishment or he/she is punished for a reason out of proportion. Once the child realizes the latter, it affects the personality and he/she feels a victim and eventually develop hatred towards mother leading to aggression. The child then displaces his/her own anger either on a sibling or classmates, Bhachech added.

Educators say:

Radhika Iyer, Director Udgam School for Children feels that these days children have become more sensitive and hence they cannot take any sort of physical punishment. Also, the beating these days comes more out of frustration as parents do not know what else to do when children act stubborn or misbehave with them. “By spanking, parents feel more powerful as the child is not able to protest.”

Anju Musafir, Founder, Mahatma Gandhi International School said, “The problem is that families have not only shifted to nuclear family but single parenting. The breakdown of a family structure has not prepared parents. Parents need to understand that each child is different, while some may need more boundaries, some may be more nurturing. Parents need to engage with the child and distract younger children from performing a particular activity. Often mothers go through high expectation and stress which ultimately results in spanking. Children these days are under pressure to perform. They go through lack of leisure time. For children, day dreaming is a must along with reducing gadgets usage. Hitting children will only lead to a violent society.”

 
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Dr. Hansal Bhachech’s inputs in today’s DNA…Single child more aggressive than those with siblings

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‘Single child more aggressive than those with siblings’

Tanushree Bhatia tanushree.bhatia@dnaindia.net – 30 Jan 2018

In an age where nuclear families are on the rise and finances touching the sky, couples either prefer not to have children, or restrict themselves to one. However, they fail to realize the consequences a single child faces because of their decision. A study undertaken by a Criminology student at Gujarat Forensic Sciences University found that children without siblings tend to be more aggressive and irritable than those with brothers or sisters.

“A Study on Irritability and Anger Control Between Only Child and Children with Siblings” was undertaken by Saket Saurav with his guide Professor Ruttuja Karkhanis, who specializes in forensic psychology.

The study was conducted on 60 children (Class 8-12) from four states  Gujarat, Madhya Pradesh, Bihar, and Jharkhand. They used irritability tests and anger scale on different parameters to reach their conclusion.

The study found that a single child is more prone to anger issues and irritability. For Gujarat, out of a sample group of 30 children with siblings, 14.3% showed symptoms of both anger and irritability, 5% showed anger symptoms, while 3.8% showed symptoms of irritability. However, in the sample group of children without siblings, 23.6% demonstrated symptoms of both irritability and anger, 3.6% had symptoms of anger, while 8.2% showed irritability symptoms.

“We have been witnessing a lot of cases of juveniles getting into criminal activities hence getting into the root became important for us as researchers,” said professor Karkhanis. “The reasons are many. The single child often gets all the attention at home so they seek the same attention outside. When they do not get it, they get into such activities to get attention.”

Dr. Hansal Bhachech, a consultant psychiatrist, agreed with the findings. “It has been observed that a single child becomes more aggressive and intolerant,” he said. “They never learn to share and become restless and angry about petty issues. Many of the criminals are a single child or neglected child.” According to him, there is only one solution to this problem “If parents decide to have children, they should go for two children, and parental care should be unbiased”.

 
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