My inputs in today’s TOI on Suicide Notes…

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Last words talk of pain, fear and disappointment….

Suicide Notes Reaching DFS Rise Four-Fold In 5 Years

On December 29 last year, Ravi Shah, a 29-year old youth from Maninagar, ended life by jumping into the Sabarmati River. From his wallet, police found a four-page note in which Shah had narrated his months-long ordeal in the hands of Karman, Mahesh and Jayram Rabari.The trio had lent him money , continued to inflate the interest and also forced him to do petty jobs for them. Maninagar police arrested the trio last month on the basis of the suicide note.

Regrettably , over the past five years, the trend of leaving behind suicide notes has gone up by 400%, making experts concerned.

Experts say that analysis of the notes provides a peek into the minds of the suicide victims and a possible key for preventing such incidents.

“Five years ago, we used to get around 15 notes each month for handwriting analysis to provide opinion on whether it matches the victim’s natural writing sample. The report establishes that there was no foul play involved. Today , the average is of around 60 notes per month. In January , we received 62 notes, out of which 45 were of high priority for ongoing court proceedings,“ said an official with state Directorate of Forensic Sciences (DFS) in Gandhinagar.

Officials added that they have found all kinds of notes ranging from written on newspaper margins to back of used postal covers. In some of the cases, the officials have got multiple notes written over a period of time, or even addressed to various persons including chief minister of Gujarat and prime minister of India.

What do the victims write in their notes? City police officials said that more often than not, the notes are written only the suicide victim wants to implicate somebody of abetment. “Suicide notes primarily mention moneylenders, defaulting debtors or monetary crisis. The next most common category is of relationship issues in both married and unmarried couples. The third category is about failure in fulfilling expectations be it academic or professional,“ said a police official. Officials said that while almost all age groups write suicide notes, the most common group is from18 to 45 years.

`Communication key to suicide prevention’

Dr Hansal Bhachech, city-based psychiatrist, said that a suicide is always aggression turned inward.“The notes reflect the aspect as it points towards a person.Many a times, the person takes the extreme step to make the others `realize’ something or prove their point. The same is true for motivation of punishing the persons responsible. We can find notes such as `take care of my mother’ or `do well in studies son’ in a few notes, showing the side of a person trying to justify the act, indicating that he or she did not have any other option left,“ he said. Professor Kamayani Mathur, city-based clinical psychologist, said that a lot goes on inside a person when he or she writes a suicide note as his or her final statement. “Family and educational institutes play a key role in shaping a person.We sometimes lose touch with the reality, and feel dejection. Timely communication between the suffering person and those in his surroundings is the key to preventing suicides,“ she said. She also mentioned the free helplines available for those feeling suicidal, and a recent initiative by state psychologists to conduct seminars in schools and colleges for positive mental health.

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Phalguni says:

    This is an accurate analysis Dr. Hansal Bhachech. It highlights the need for developing compassion in relationships, so that at the time of crisis the affected person can seek help from near and dear ones and off course from professionals.

  2. !) Communication with children by parents -Taught them Life is differ than Filmy life,You put your best effort for Any goal and then accept Result try again . Parents has to consult for child education and career.(If possible) and school has also Kept faculty for counselling for weekly or monthly basis. Dont force to child for completing their wish or ambition.
    2)Give them example for right and wrong decisions taker result.s from society .
    3)Restrict youth and give them love also.We are always with you but you have to do this or not to do this.And also show love towards them.
    4)Teach them never give up, god/destiny /time always give you solution They never give problem without solution.

  3. Sir, I like your post.

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