In the light of New Year, we make many kinds of resolutions to seek positivity and betterment in life. To bring positive change in life, any day is a good day but the enthusiasm we feel in the first few days of a new year, gives extra ordinary energy to go on. As the year passes the enthusiasm is lost along with the resolutions. As the New Year is setting in slowly let’s make a pact to our self which will work as the foundation of a healthy relationship. These New Year resolutions which are based on real issues will work as strengthening factor in your relationship.
TIME IS THE PRIME FACTOR NEEDED TO NURTURE RELATIONSHIP:
Time spend together is the most vital to any strong relationship, yet it is most neglected. Those who cannot spare time try to pursue their partner by materialistic comforts like expensive gifts, comforts at home, driver, maid and a cook to make their life easy. However, they need to understand that all this cannot fulfill the vacuum felt by in their absence or time required to strengthen relationship. It is something like attempting to quench your thirst by beer or aerated soft-drinks instead of water. Make a resolution to spend quality time with your partner on daily bases. Put your mobile, laptop or any other office work aside while at home, just be there enjoying along with your spouse.
GIVE AND TAKE IS THE EQUATION OF ALL FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS:
You get what you give is a saying we have been known to from a long time. You cannot expect mango sowing babul, can you?! There is nothing like one way path in a relationship, it has to be bidirectional; always. One sided expectations are like a slow poison, which kills relationship slowly but surely. You cannot expect more from your partner than what you are giving in to them. Make a resolution that you will give them a little more than what you expect from them.
YOUR PARTNER IS NEITHER A PUNCHING BAG, NOR A COMPLAINT BOX:
If you treat your partner as a punching bag or waste bin for dumping your negative feelings than your relationship is going to be tumultuous for sure. To keep your relationship healthy it is necessary to share all your positive as well as negative feelings. It is a good idea to exchange genuine smile or hug without any reason just to spread positive vibes. Make a resolution that you will reduce negative connotations and promote positive feelings in your attitude with your partner.
EVERYONE NEEDS SPACE TO BREATH AND GROW:
Everyone needs personal space to grow as an individual and thereby making stronger relationship. Partners need to understand to respect this space and not to impede. Occupying your partner’s personal space is detrimental to the relationship and on the other hand giving too much of space will make them licentious. Make a resolution that you will respect your partner’s individuality and grant him/her a freedom required.
ONE CANNOT DISSOLVE HIS/HER SELF-IMAGE COMPLETELY IN THE RELATIONSHIPS:
One has to respect his partner and nurture his/her ego to make their relationship work strong. It is your moral responsibility to respect him/her as an individual and never try to blend as one. Make a resolution that you will respect your partner in front of others and treat their opinion as equally important as your own. You will never take them for granted.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE NEVER PEACEFUL WITHOUT FAITHFULNESS:
Even after being married, people tend to fall for others outside their marriage. They start flowing in wrong directions when they get time, place, opportunity or circumstances. This is natural and understandable but self control is the only way out. Sometimes, such disloyalty is a result of unhealthy and unsatisfactory relationship itself. In such cases self control seems like a little too much to ask for but that what this pact is about. Make a resolution that you will be always faithful to your partner, no matter how difficult that may be to you.
TO LISTEN IS MORE NECESSARY THAN TO SPEAK OUT IN RELATIONSHIPS:
Healthy communication is the soul of eternal relationship. Both are equally in need of expressing their feelings throughout their togetherness. It is certainly unfair to go on talking or expressing what you feel and lending a deaf ear when it’s your partner’s turn. Make a resolution that you will honestly listen to your partner (Not just pretend to be listening), will try to understand feelings behind and then will respond rather than react.
TAUNTING, NAGGING OR DEROGATORY COMMENTS ARE BIG ‘NO’ IN THE RELATIONSHIPS:
People expect respect in the relationships. To some extent they can deal with partner’s taunting or nagging but continuous such type of conversations are detrimental. Your derogatory comments are subjecting your partner to be an object of mockery in their own eves or in front of others, which is a blow on their self-respect. Make a resolution that you will always be aware of these flaws in your communication and will try to keep it in check.
KNOWING LIKES AND DISLIKES OF EACH OTHER IS MANDATORY:
Make a list of 25 things liked & disliked by your partners and if you dare, then get it checked by them. Am sure, most of you will not get even passing marks! Some might be well aware about these likes-dislikes but they tend to ignore and take their partners for granted. This is not done, if you want to be happy together. Make a resolution that you will try to know your partner’s likes and dislikes, will respect them and also give freedom to their choice.
TRANSPERANCY GIVES SENSE OF SECURITY IN RELATIONSHIP:
Partners feel insecure in the relationship when they find out that their buddies are hiding important facts from them or they have personal secrets. This will result into suspicion as well as apprehension. Make a resolution that you will try to be more transparent and truthful to your partner. (Even if you have to throw away your secret SIM card!)
DOING DAILY CHORES TOGETHER CAN WORK MAGIC:
There is a difference in your spouse and waiter. Your partner is not bound to take your orders, in return they expect your helping hand in what they do. Mutually helping each-other in whatever you do, starting from daily chores to their life goals, is one of the ways you can strengthen your bond. Make a resolution that you will always be eager to help your partners when they require and will avoid your interference when they do not need it.
SEXUALITY IS IMPORTANT TOO:
It is very important that your sexual interests in the relationship are expressed timely, appropriately and adequately. Although, not all relationship necessitates it like friendship, marital relationship cannot blossom without it. Frigidity or sexual disinterest of one of the partner makes married life boring. Make a resolution to keep yourself clean and fit to have active and satisfying sexual life.
Well, you might be thinking that these resolutions are good on paper but difficult to practice in the life. Ok, I understand they are difficult to practice but that is how resolutions are, difficult but not impossible! Try it, even little improvement on these scales will make big difference to strength of your relationship.