Call it a manufacturing defect but men can rarely express their emotions earnestly. Even if they try, the emotions are not expressed as poetically or profoundly as women. Men have a natural inclination towards logic and often tend to show their dislike for certain emotional weaknesses of women. Any woman who desires a healthy relationship with a man has to pay heed to these dislikes and try to overcome them. Once successful, such women can work magic on men and rest assured their men will follow them like a shadow in the sunlight. Researchers of Harvard University have come out with these findings.
When asked about the most annoying habit of women employees, the officers pointed their finger to the habit of crying. No man (or even a woman) ever likes to see a woman shedding tears. A man may sympathize and may try to console her but at the bottom of his heart he finds it irritating. Every woman who tries to use her ability to cry as a weapon, must keep in mind that she may succeed in winning the sympathy on an occasion or two but in the long run she will find herself a loser. Gradually she loses the sympathy and respect. It is quite natural for a woman to give vent to her emotions by crying, but she has to exercise wisdom in choosing the right place, the right time and the right person. Simultaneously, men must understand that every time a woman bursts into tears, it is not an effort for ‘emotional blackmailing’.
Undoubtedly, women are capable of expressing their emotions honestly but the problem is that the expression is often found prosaic. She may not say anything openly but may suggest her feelings in her tender ways. On her husband’s birthday, she would wear that new sari that she has so lovingly preserved for this special occasion but the husband miserably fails to notice that it is a new one and that she has got ready for him. Some smart guy may notice it easily but then he fails to understand why she has taken the trouble of wearing new clothes. The whole purpose of her effort stands defeated and she feels utterly disappointed and hurt. She begins to interpret that her husband is no longer interested in her and that the old enthusiasm and romance has faded for ever. Men, on the other hand, admit that this kind of poetic expression baffles them. They insist that the expressions should be straight-forward, down to earth, so that they leave no room for any interpretations.The expression and its misinterpretation trigger off quarrels. This does not mean that a woman must shed all her art, but she has to modify her expressions keeping in view the preference and level of understanding of her husband. Some men (very few, to be honest), however, understand and appreciate the subtlety and beauty of women’s lyrical expressions.
Whenever women are unhappy on any issue, they have a tendency to look at the past events and dig out the old, forgotten scars and wounds. Men do not like to carry the dead burden of the past events, so they are naturally annoyed by this tendency. They show their strong dislikes describing it the wife playing the same old, worn-out record again and again. It is advisable that instead of harping about the shocking past events, women learn the art of living in the present.
Men often fail to resist the temptation of staring at women other than their wives. It is said that they do have roving eyes. Now, it infuriate the woman at once but men label such hue and cry as the wive’s nagging tendency to make ‘a mountain out of a mole-hill.’ In these circumstances, it is advisable that women restrain their indignation and follow the policy of wait and watch. No woman ever likes anyone staring at her like a fool. Such man will be automatically disliked by that woman because of his tendency to stare! The other thing that women must bear in mind is that the formula of ‘love at first sight’ works its magic only in adolescence and in youth; it falls flat as one matures. So, women should not doubt his gaze all the time and nag him on the issue. At the same time, men must avoid making futile attempts to play the role of a Roadside Romeo at an mature age.
Men are accused of committing a serious offence of forgetting important dates like birthdays, marriage anniversaries or the first-time-we-met day!Good at filing Income Tax returns on time, men often find themselves trapped in an embarrassing situation when the list of forgotten things include something as important as the date of wedding anniversary or the birthday of their wife. Here they are destined to face fire-brand reactions. In the survey of the most annoying habits of women, these reactions find a prominent place. It may sound like the pot calling the kettle black but women must not feel worried. They may like to behave a little more skilfully here. Start reminding your husband of the date of important occasions well in advance. He may take these repeated reminders as constant hammering but still it is worth doing. Men cannot, of course, wash their hands off by terming forgetfullness as a ‘natural flaw’. ’ With the availability of a number of electronic devices, to remind oneself of a particular date is no longer a difficult thing at all. One can easily remember such dates if he is really keen to remember and if he doesn’t term it as a mere sentimentality.
The research work of the most annoying habits of women has put these conclusions on our table. After reading this article, men may feel that their cries for help have been heard at last and they may make their wives read these five things carefully. But chances are that women may counter saying that they too have a list of the most disturbing habits of men, so will they take the initiative to get rid of them?
This article is not intended to spark off any controversy or make you blame each other but it is an effort to help you lead you to a happy married life. By sticking to these annoying habits, men and women can remain confined to a narrow definition of a ‘typical wife’ or a ‘typical husband.’ But the actual understanding of the defects of your own nature will certainly enable you to soar high above this narrow tunnel and you will find new horizons of happiness unfolding around you.
Five Habits of Women That Men Find Annoying…..